Recently I’ve found myself with some time to think about the differences of being a stay-at-home-mom to the differences of working outside the home. Although I’ve only had a short stint of both, one thing that’s stood out the most is that my pace of life has significantly SLLLLLOOOOOWWWWEEEEEDDDD down.
It’s funny because lots of people ask if I’m bored or if I get bored…I’d be lying if there weren’t moments some days when I wasn’t scrambling for something to do while my little guy naps in a fervent effort to avoid the dreaded 4 letter word (B O R E D). Guilt comes over me as any inkling of boredom rears is ugly head as I think about my husband who works so faithfully day in and day out to support our little threesome.
While honestly thinking about stay-at-home-momdom and boredom I realize one very important thing for myself. Life is SLOWER now! I’m sure this changes as life takes more shape and a family grows in age and number but it’s like being pushed into an ice-cold pool when you’re expecting a balmy 87 degree dip! The biggest relief in this for me was actually coming to the understanding that it’s going to take some work getting used to a slower pace of life.
In the working world it was a constant go, go, go. Meetings, clients, phone calls, crisis; high demand and never a dull moment…funny how during those times I would’ve PAID for a moment of silence. The two worlds are drastically different when we look at pace but the demand is just as great. No longer am I running around trying to extinguish fires here and there; now I’m chasing after the right method on sleep effectiveness, making healthy homemade baby food, teaching my little guy and providing a stimulating environment for a happy baby.
I feel so fortunate to have figured this out so early on; realizing that time slows down is a hard pill to swallow for me at times. I’m sure that view will evolve over time like I’ve said before, but it’s such an interesting challenge for me. It certainly opens the door to a lot of fear to creep in; self-doubt… “will I be good enough?” …”Am I cut out for this?” “DO NOT GIVE IN TO BOREDOM YOU WILL GET DEPRESSED!!!”
I’ve had to move away from the word and description of boredom and focus more on my discovery of how time in my world has changed and how my daily priorities and tasks are seasoned much differently than they used to be. Time management in my former work life was the key to success so it’s a skill I’ve well-developed over the years. Using it in new and different ways only gives me the opportunity to refine skills I wasn’t thinking I’d continue developing. Silly to think, but so true! I think I looked at staying home as taking care of and being with my sweet baby man but didn’t really think much about how my professional skills would come into play.
Things truly continue to stay interesting. I’m looking forward to continuing to discover new things as well as old ones! Maybe the sewing projects I’ve been dreaming about will actually get some attention and maybe I’ll actually have time to get more creative with my love of photography! Thinking about spending time with my son and incorporating my hobbies does stir up that not so distant mommy guilt…”Is it right to be able to be able to stay home with my sweet little love and have time for my hobbies while my husband is hard at work every day?” ….that’s obviously a whole other post!
What are some of the things you do during your family’s quiet time?